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Jan 09 2015

The Transition Timeline

Many people have asked me about when various changes are going to happen. The most common question of which has been “when do I switch pronouns?” I want to answer that by publishing my timeline for transition. Why didn’t I publish it earlier? I didn’t finish it until this week! Please be aware: This is a highly detailed time line and may contain names of events that are uncomfortable or disturbing for you.

I want to make some overall notes before I put out the actual timeline:

  • Transition is just that, transition: It is a process over time. It is not an instant switch from boy to girl.
    • It will be a slow transition for all of us but at least with this timeline you can see when society may change to calling me a woman.
  • This is an attempt to document all possible changes, and give a general time frame for each, some changes may not occur or may occur at different time frames.
  • The idea is that I was a man before, I am currently in trans* land, in the future I may end as a woman, or stay in trans* land my whole life..
  • The general idea is to have a time of androgyny after coming out but before going feminine.
  • If at any point in this process I became satisfied with my physical appearance or the dysphoria stops… The transition ends immediately.
  • The above clause could result in me being neither completely girl, or completely boy. If that is the case my gender would be labeled as trans* for the rest of my life.
  • I am detailing things that have occurred in the past. This is an entire time line of being a transgender person.
    • Experiences may vary, if considering this process, please consult your own soul.
  • There is only one item with a specific date. Everything before that date I want to happen before that event. Everything after, happens after. I have used that event (and date) as the key to plan the rest of the process.
  • While this ordering is based on the name change, those are two “sections” of the transition. Events inside each section will potentially change order or time frames.
  • I have emphasized events that are relevant to people around me and their actions or wording. Also how I interact with society as a whole.

Okay, so now the actual transition timeline:

Well, a three year process if it goes all the way. Keep in mind there is still a lot up in the air. A lot of decision making still to do in regards to surgery. At this point I don’t know if I’m going to do or need any surgery. I’m kind of hoping I don’t. But there is some documentation where I cannot change my gender marker from Male to Female without some kind of surgery modification.

The only piece I’m really trying to get done on schedule is the name change. I think it would be very poetic to become Josephine on my 30th birthday. I’ve also divided it up by things I want to do before the name change and things I want to do after the name change. The order and dates inside those blocks are tentative and subject to change.

I hope this helps to answer some of the questions you all have been having, the most common of which is the “when do I change pronouns?” question. My answer to that question is that this is a transition for all of us. The deadline is March 2016. That is also the deadline for my changing pronouns in reference to myself. 😉

My goal in this was to not only answer questions for you guys, but answer questions for myself. This has been a couple weeks in the making, mostly inside my own head. I could always see in this transition where I was starting from and where I wanted to be but now that I’ve written this, I can also see a path to get there.

I want to impress one last time this is NOT  a quick process and it’s not just me transitioning. We are all Transitioning together to the idea of me being a woman. Some are picking it up quickly others (like myself) are having much more difficulty. But, we are all in this process together. ‘Tis a marathon, not a sprint.

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About the author

Josie

I’ve never been good at writing about myself. I’ve never been good at ‘talking up my strengths’ but at least I should try…

I am a 30 year old (gasp), woman. To me, it is just that simple. My life is slowly coming together into a form where I can be proud to call it my life.

Who am I? I’m a strong, loving woman that was assigned male at birth and is finally correcting that egregious error by biology. For most women if they have an urge like wearing a sundress, they just do it. For my first 29 years on this planet, that wasn’t a possibility.

I write to heal, then publish to inform. I hope my journey can make the journeys of people that come after me just a little less painful.

I also have a ‘day job’ as a Data Center Technician. I do an incredibly physical job lifting fixing and moving servers. I daily, walk into and then maintain ‘the cloud.’ Servers are still quite a bit larger and heavier than your desktop at home. So much so that I am the only woman on my team of 20 and one of 5 in the entire building of about 75. Technology is without a doubt a male dominated industry. Which makes me quite sad.

I wish I could better express who I am. I don’t feel like I’ve done justice to my history, my life, and my story, but for now, this will have to do. To me the most beautiful thing in the world is understanding and empathy. If we can have only one thing for each other person on this planet, I choose empathy.

2 comments

  1. Marcy

    Excellent. This answered many questions that I didn’t even know I had. Also I love the Process of Transition illustration, as it can be used in so many areas of life. I like that you have a plan but know you can re-evaluate and adjust at any time.

  2. Marcy

    Excellent. This answered many questions that I didn’t even know I had. Also I love the Process of Transition illustration, as it can be used in so many areas of life. I like that you have a plan but know you can re-evaluate and adjust at any time.

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