Breaking Out of More of Society’s Chains.

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  1. Marcy says:

    I enjoyed the musical as well and the solo of “I am what I am” was very powerful. It wasn’t until just now though after reading about how you felt did it make me cry too when I re-watched it. I could see your discomfort and wasn’t sure how to help. I am just now enjoying shopping after my mastectomies and after losing weight (not the same but felt so depressed about what my body had become-obese and flat chested), it was torture and depressing to shop for clothes. I felt like a stranger to myself to wear clothes I didn’t like, but that I could fit into, and not feel comfortable in my prosthetics. It will get better for you, you are doing the tough work required of you. I KNOW you will be able to do what you said in your closing sentence and “stand proud and say, ‘I am what I am!'” and YOU DON’T NEED ANY EXCUSES for society. I love you, all of you, always and forever.

  2. Wendie says:

    I am a mom of a trans* teen son. A friend of mine on my support group shared your article. I think you are already stating who you are by reaching out through the social media outlets. I am proud of you already. After listening to the song it made me feel slightly sad that it was written in such a way to say, what I am. You are not a what or a thing you are a beautiful person.. You are a who. I hope you can be proud to be, who you are. I understand your fear of wearing female clothing in public. Test your waters Dear, try adding a beautiful scarf or a set of fabulous bangels. My cis male husband 38yrs old has several pair of Womens jeans because they stretch, have a flare and have bold stitching on them. You may find that people don’t pay as much attention as you think. I love you and your courage thus far. You will be able to shout to the roof one day that you are who you are with a ball gown on too!

    • Marcy says:

      Loved the point you make about What vs Who. Thank you.

    • Jo says:

      Wendie, Thank you very much about noticing the What vs. Who! I was just thinking about that very word choice when you commented. I was working on a way to introduce a blog post about this very topic. Your comment gave me a great way to do it without sounding egotistical or condescending.

      I wish your child the best. For me the teen years were absolutely the worst. I’m hoping changing wardrobes won’t be much of an issue but I do really want to wear dresses and what not that’s a little more obvious. We shall see how things go.

      Without a doubt who is the right word! 🙂 Being transgender is a part of who I am. But they did choose What for a reason I think…

      http://www.uberpocky.com/2015/02/who-or-what-word-choice-matters/

  3. Susie Hayes says:

    Since you’ve already come out at work – that wold be a great place to start with your clothing. I’m not sure what kind of clothes you wear now – but an infinity scarf with a fitted t-shirt and skinny jeans would look super cute. Add in some accessories and high boots!

  4. Susie Hayes says:

    Since you’ve already come out at work – that wold be a great place to start with your clothing. I’m not sure what kind of clothes you wear now – but an infinity scarf with a fitted t-shirt and skinny jeans would look super cute. Add in some accessories and high boots!

  5. Dear Granddaughter, Jo,
    I had no idea such pain went with this process. I wish it didn’t. But know that you have so many people in your life that love you and support you in your transition. And this Grandma is one of them!
    Now as for the clothes you are not going to wear again..our church has a rummage sale in April and October and would welcome any donations. If you bring them to me I’ll be happy to pass them on.
    Love,
    Grandma Browning

  6. Dear Granddaughter, Jo,
    I had no idea such pain went with this process. I wish it didn’t. But know that you have so many people in your life that love you and support you in your transition. And this Grandma is one of them!
    Now as for the clothes you are not going to wear again..our church has a rummage sale in April and October and would welcome any donations. If you bring them to me I’ll be happy to pass them on.
    Love,
    Grandma Browning

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